Question for all the tops and bottoms –
I’m a bottom with a low sex drive and some anxiety issues. Got myself a regular now with potential for boyfriend status. We haven’t discussed anal yet but stereotypically he seems like a top – he’s taller, heavier, slightly older, more sexually aggressive, and has a huge dick.
Due to my anxiety, having a super tight hole and having had some terrible sex in the past, I haven’t bottomed or played with myself in about five months. Last time I bottomed, it was fantastic, but I wanted something deeper while my friend just wanted fun because he was emotionally unavailable, so I cut him loose. The thing that made our sex worthwhile – he rimmed my tight ass to oblivion for a good 15 minutes before pounding. I was super horny and realized I actually enjoy getting rimmed even more than getting fucked!
At that point I decided I would only ever bottom again, whether with my guy or anybody, is if he was willing to give my ass a good licking. Otherwise, we stick to oral and masturbation. I guess the question is – does that sound like a realistic compromise? All I keep reading is how the bottom should please his top, that there are 5,000 bottoms for every top and we shouldn’t ever be selfish, while being a selfish top is hot af. Somebody, please let me know if I risk being lonely forever. As I mentioned, my sex drive is low, I’ve never had trouble securing a hung top and they always seem much more eager to fuck than I am. It just goes against everything I read.