New to being a bottom, and I need help!

So for awhile, I’ve been confused about my sexuality. I’ve liked girls in the past, but I’ve never been interested in showing my dominance in a relationship. I understand that I don’t need to be a dominant partner to date girls, but I never liked the idea of being dominated by a girl (Not that I’m sexist, it just feels awkward to me). So after nearly a year of thinking about it, I realized that I’m pretty much gay. The thought of a man dominating me sounds amazing (When I say dominating, I dont mean just sex, I also mean small, cute things, like being the outer spoon). The only problem is that I don’t really understand what I have to do to hold up my end in a relationship. I don’t know how to act, treat my partner, or how behave during sex. I was hoping posting this could get people who have experience with being a bottom, or a top that looks for specific things in a bottom, to help me understand what I’m supposed to do. I also wouldn’t mind trying an online relationship 🙂 . PM me if you can help me out!!!

5 COMMENTS

  1. I’m bi. With women, I’m dominant. If there’s a dildo between their legs, I’m going to bend over and take it like a bitch in heat. Same way with men, I’m a bottom for dick, top for pussy.

  2. Honestly there’s no way to really act like a “correct” bottom. If you think that’s your natural role, then chances are your natural demeanor is that of a bottom, with your own personal flair 🙂 when I tried my first time, i just kinda went in blind, and with a good bit of trust. it ended really great and I’m pretty sure I turned the guy on with my general behavior haha. are there any specific situations youre not sure how to approach?

  3. The thing about bottoming is that you can actually control your partner’s pleasure.
    For a long time I resisted bottoming because of my mistaken belief in submitting (consequence of an early bad experience), but later discovered that it wasn’t true.

  4. Perhaps you could ask yourself why you bind up gender and power with sex. My husband and I are completely equal when it comes to sex. I’m all but totally a bottom but that’s because I love a hot cock in my ass, nothing to do with power, domination, roles, none of that shit. My husband is _mostly_ a top, and he has no power and dominance baggage.

    Just think about it.

    >The only problem is that I don’t really understand what I have to do to hold up my end in a relationship.

    A good place to start is to look at what roles you think are involved, and why those roles exist, and whether those ancient social norms have anything whatever to do with two men having sex and loving each other.

    > I don’t know how to act, treat my partner, or how behave during sex

    I suggest treating him as your partner, and behaving accordingly.

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