Hey people, so many have asked what my experience was with coming out- so here’s my personal story before, during, and after coming out of the “closet.”
Disclaimer: I struggle with explaining my story because truthfully I really don’t like the whole “coming out” process because society has made it out to be a HUGE deal; when in reality we’re all just humans who love other humans.
Gender, race, color- it doesn’t matter and I am someone who stands for equality among all human beings. Let’s put an end to labels and start accepting everyone for who they are! Who’s with me?
Also, I said I would share my message that I shared on social media the day I came out, so here it is-
December 30, 2014:
“Dear family, friends, whoever is reading this, I am not doing this for attention, nor out of guilt. I am writing this out of sheer honesty. All my life I’ve known that I’ve been different, but I didn’t wanna face or accept it. It’s something that I hated. I told myself that no matter what, I will be normal, I will blend in, I will live by society’s standards even if that means I’ll be miserable.
It’s been a long 20 years, and I’ve recently realized that I was the only one who was making it a problem, I turned something so small into a huge deal for senseless reasons. The fact is, I am who I am, accept me or not, I will be okay.
So for those of you who don’t know,
I’m a homosexual, a fag, whatever you want to call it, go ahead. I now understand that it wasn’t by choice, nor was it how I was raised; but it is what it is. And to everyone reading this, if my sexual orientation really makes you feel uncomfortable, or gives you a reason to no longer be associated with me, then that is perfectly fine. I understand, do what you need to do. But I am done living for everyone else, I am done feeling ashamed, I am done blaming myself for something that is forever a part of my life. And as clichéd as it sounds, I am finally happy with myself. So feel free to say whatever, think whatever, do whatever you want because I will go on living regardless of any opinion out there. I only hope that you are capable of seeing that who I am is not defined by who or what I like, and that I am the same person you met at some point in your life. The only difference is now I am free to be who I want to be, as you all should be too.
Just remember this life is too short to live for anyone but yourself. That being said, I wish you all nothing but happiness in 2015 and for all the years to come.
– still and always, matt.”
Remember to love and accept EVERY PART of you, not just your sexual orientation! Much love as always, and don’t forget to FEEEEEEED 🙂
(song: Earned it – The Weekend)