“before you judge me, try hard to love me”
being transgender is something I often denied to myself as I didn’t know if I wanted to physically undergo all that is traditionally involved with a transition. as I learned from my gender identity therapist, it doesn’t have to be a transformation nor do you need sexual reassignment/sexual body parts of the sex you are to be transgender. being transgender is something you just are, not something you choose to be nor something you change to be. the gender you are is who you are and no one can tell me I am not a male because of my appearance. you don’t know my mind, my body or my struggle.
I was so scared to be honest about this so I thought it would be easier to say I’m non binary. but that is just not authentic, it was my shield to protect myself from the massive backlash that ensued today after my coming out