I'M GAY!! My Coming Out Story – Coming Out Journey

I’M GAY!! My Coming Out Story – Coming Out Journey

During my coming out journey I watched a bunch of coming out videos and they were super helpful for me when I was trying to discover my sexuality and come out. I decided to make this video to help anyone who is questioning their sexuality or trying to come out. Hope it is helpful.

Here is what I talk about and when I talk about each topic:
• First Gay Thoughts: 0:49
• Starting College: 2:40
• Having a Couch/Councilor: 6:15
• First Time Saying I was Gay: 8:43
• Realizing my LGBTQ Stereotypes: 10:15
• Accepting I was gay but not accepting
myself for being gay: 11:35
• Telling a Friend: 12:05
• Things Get Bad – Outed to All My Friends: 13:36
• It Gets Worse – My Biggest Fear: 15:11
• Officially Coming Out to Myself: 17:21
• Coming Out to Best High School Friends: 19: 31
• Living With Another Gay Guy: 19:54
• Accepting Myself for Being Gay: 20:46
• Coming Out to Parents: 21:40
The Gift of Coming Out
• My Parents Becoming Allies: 23:37
• Have Questions? How to Contact Me: 26:00

Thank you for watching my coming out video! I hope it was able to help you in some way.

If you have any questions, don’t be scared to reach out.
Instagram: @tristankuhn


  1. Whew! Dude, I have never heard anyone talk so fast in a coming out video. Actually though, I loved listening to you. I came out like 36 years ago. Although things have changed a lot, it's pretty amazing that how similar coming out is to what it was then. Also, you are adorable and that shirt you have on looks very nice on you….or as we used to say back in the day … HOT. Very nice job young man.

  2. If you enjoy Gay, Coming out videos and stories, you’ll want to consider Cameron DeCessna’s latest book, Clay Parker: Growing Up Gay in 1953. It’s the story of a fourteen-year-old boy confused by his feelings, thoughts, and dreams as he reaches adolescence and finds his sexual interests are for other teenage boys. But it's 1953, a time of conservatism and rigid family and moral values. To top off Clay's problems, he's an orphan forced to live with an abusive aunt and uncle who openly show their distaste for the lad who was severely burned when a house fire killed his mother, father, and younger brother. They would be the last persons he could turn to, to help him cope with his alien feelings. This is the story of Clay's troubles, trials, and final triumph as he strives to find a family who will love him after he is forced to run away from home after a severe beating by his drunken uncle. The book contains graphic sexual descriptions that may not be suitable for children under 12, although it would be highly recommended reading for gay teens to raise their awareness of the struggles of adolescent gay boys in earlier times. Cameron DeCessna is a gay novelist best known for his Jordan Dare Trilogy, released in mid-summer of 2018 and available at Amazon Kindle Books. While the Jordan Dare series is written for all readers, 12 and up, and has no adult-only content, some of DeCessna's works are more suitable for adult readers. This novel, Clay Parker: Growing up Gay in 1953, is the first of several gay, coming-of-age stories the author plans to release in late 2018 and 2019. DeCessna, born in 1951, writes from personal experience and vividly captures the difficulties faced by gay adolescents during those times. Look for Cameron DeCessna’s books and visit his author’s page at Amazon/Kindle Publishing. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42868432-clay-parker?ac=1&from_search=true Also, if you enjoy stories and books about ghosts and the supernatural, you might be interested in reading CAMERON DECESSNA’S Jordan Dare trilogy of novels that include Jordan Dare and the Kidnapped Ghost, Jordan Dare and the Tolchester Ghost and Jordan Dare and the Captive Spirit. These three intertwined novels feature a gay protagonist who, since the age of thirteen, has been able to see and speak with recently departed or murdered gay men and teens that, for some reason, are unable to “move on”. His ability leads to one adventure after another as he helps to solve murders, right wrongs and help the deceased settle their earthly affairs. Even though Jordan is gay, the books contain no graphic sexual content. His preference does affect how he deals with the gay spirits sent to him by some unknown entity. By the end of the third book, Jordan learns more about his mentor and discovers an alternate world in which he has a greater destiny to fulfill, thus setting the stage for other Jordan Dare novels. https://www.amazon.com/Jordan-Dare-Kidnapped-Ghost-Trilogy-ebook/dp/B07GZX757M

  3. Great video! Will help many. The most difficult time seems to be the time that you realize you might be and that you realize you are. Very little support out there. The most dangerous environment for a gay teen is the very religious conservative one where most support seems to be needed. Maybe a second video to help those that question and support them at that crucial period,

  4. Hi. This was a beautiful video. I really loved it. Now I need advice. I'm 12 now. That is my main concern. I don't care about my age. I know who I am but I'm afraid my parents think it's too young. Last year I told them I was bi. The reaction i got was amazing and I'm so happy but it felt a bit awkward. I later asked if everything was ok and my mum said yes but no parent wants their child to think about sex. This took me off guard as I never thought about that aspect. It was mainly romance for me. Anyway now I feel things have changed. Or I realised. I'm pretty sure I'm gay. But first off it is a massive stereotype that bisexuals are just transitioning gays. I feel like coming out will inforce that. I also don't want things to get weird between me and my parents or that they won't take me seriously cos I'm still young. I'm just all around terrified and I really need advise on how to approach this. Baring in mind my bro is gay and I don't want them to think I copied him.

  5. It is sad the when you first met with the LGBT community that he came off that way. Similar to my first experience. Being told that bisexual doesn't really exist. Told to pick a side.

  6. Sodomy is a Sin, it is called fornication!!!( sexual immorality) man was not created for man, or woman for woman, you may as.well lay with a beast, all sin is an abomination to God Almighty, and his Son, Jesus the Christ,
    Therefore repent and resist the devil, God will forgive you if you
    Repent and be as you were created, you can do this if you are a real man, or woman,
    So ask the Lord to help you resist satan,
    All who sin and do not repent will lose their souls in Hell!!!

  7. I understand and agree with the reasons not to like the term “straight acting,“ but the guy who was haranguing you about it had a very poor sense of timing. That was not what you needed to hear at the time, and he might have done more harm than good. I think the overall point is that there is no one “right“ way to be gay. As I heard one person put it, personality does not equal sexuality. There are gay people who are very masculine, very feminine, and everything in between – and that is perfectly OK. The point is to be yourself and not somebody else’s idea of who you should be. You speak very well about your experiences, and I’m sure this video will be helpful to those still grappling with their sexual orientation.

  8. Tristan You are going to make some guy really happy. I loved the way you just went after the issue at hand. Did some analysis and came to the logical conclusion. That activity will serve you well going forward. I think it would be nice to hear how you retrained your thinking out of the stereotypes that put so much pressure on you.  Society and the media has distorted sexuality being gay especially into something of a side show. When it is no more than being born with blue eyes rather than brown or left or right handed. Hey thanks for sharing

  9. This is terrific. You tell the whole thing super fast (like it’s been a dam waiting to burst) but totally honestly and confidently. I’m quite a bit older than you but the themes are the same. There is a lot of info here that maybe one day needs to be unpacked….how self-righteous and hectoring and tyrannical some people in the “LGBTQ community” can be (sometimes making it more difficult for people to come out rather than easier); learning to trust others with deeply personal parts of ourselves; balancing visibility with privacy; being authentic in the moment but allowing ourselves to grow; what “being a man” is when we are almost exclusively attracted to other men; etc. but it’s the shame and the guilt and the fear that slows us down. As kids when our peers are learning to love we are learning to lie…..and we miss out on so much of the great things about growing up often until we are quite a bit older. But I love your attitude and that you’re now in the drivers seat of your life. Thanks for sharing because you’ve got important things to say. ❤️👍🏼

  10. Looks like I graduated from UIUC slightly too early haha. Literally feel like I had all these same thoughts and issues when embarking on close relationships with straight people while at school. lol also had a close friend's girlfriend recently accuse me of hitting on all my guy friends so that's a fucking delight…

  11. It’s the need to label oneself that causes all the confusion. I hope we evolve in the future to just be ourselves and have no need to be gay, straight, trans, pink, blue, whatever. It’s time for Show and Tell. This is me!

  12. That was one great long ass story. LOL. Welcome to the LGBTQ community. I hope you find a nice boyfriend and as nice as you seem. You are now a leader in the gay community by putting yourself out there to help others.

  13. What an absolutely amazing story, man! I just came out to my parents last year, and I am somewhat older than you are! Welcome to the LGBT community. I totally support you. You seem like a really sweet and amazing person! I hope we see more of you and more videos like this! 🙂

  14. Very well done, young man. This video will help LOTS of other STRAIGHT-ACTING gay guys.

    There, I said it. There’s nothing wrong with the term; it’s simply an accurate description for how we feel/view ourselves. And judging from a few of the comments already, there are plenty of us who are not in the least offended by the ‘label’, and in fact, believe that the more visibility ‘straight-acting’ gay guys get, the better it is for the overall cause (which in the end is just acceptance, isn’t it?).

    So Tristan, you be you, because you are a veritable poster child for the gay community at large. And kudos to your parents, who sound like awesome people. I think your entire family is a gift, and I thank you for sharing such a positive and heart warming story.

  15. Hey we really enjoyed your video we are a lesbian couple and you inspired us to come out with our story we watched it before we recorded our video.

  16. I just came across of your video I can say there's a lot of coming out videos, I came out when I was 16 in high school I knew when I was in Jr high school but I waited until high school boyfriend in high school we both where on the swim team ,coming out in the 80s wasn't that bad I had great friends and family now I'm married to a great guy,,,,,I'm new to you're channel great video it's the best one I have watched a lot of the one's who might want to come out should watch your video hope to see more videos awesome guy 👍👍👍👍❤😊😊

  17. It's been a while, but I still remember those early years of my life, when I couldn't stand the thought of being gay and I'd grasp at straws to convince myself that it wasn't entirely true. I wanted to believe that it was like a nightmare, that I'd eventually wake up. Even though I was bullied, cruelly, I do believe the most difficult part for me was also accepting it about myself. My life is going to be the life of a gay man, take it or leave it. And then developing ways to frame and cope with that reality.

    It was brave of you to come out and I congratulate you for that. It is wonderful that you will have much love and support as you learn to navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of living honestly. You state in your video that being gay is only 2% of who you are, but believe me, other people don't see it that way and you will have to contend with that.

    One video topic could be: what were the early messages about homosexuality you internalized that made you hate the idea of being gay? What did you hear about being gay growing up from your family, your peers, your community, the media that contributed to this self-loathing? Sometimes understanding the root cause of something can help heal it.

  18. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm currently binging coming out videos in preparation to come out to my parents. I also just realized my sexuality first year of university, so i relate to that! Really odd interaction you had with that head of the LGBTQ centre or whatever, uncool of him to have strayed off topic when you really needed validation of your own identity. But good on you for going to talk to him In the first place, man I was too scared to talk to anyone when I was questioning

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