So I’ve been seeing my bf for a year and some change. initially, Wednesday’s and weekends were for hunching but now we only have weekends together because of our current schedules but we make it work. Typically I’ll go to his apartment Saturday after he’s prepped and we’ll bump uglies. But we’ve been wanting to see each other more so we’ve talked about me coming over on Friday sometimes.
Here’s the problem. If I come over Friday (which I would love to do) we aren’t gonna have sex that weekend because he’s embarrassed to clean out with me around and he thinks it’ll kill the romance (spoiler alert: it’s never romantic but I digress).
I’ve suggested I leave the apartment for a bit while he’s doing it. I’ve offered to clean out too in a weird form of solidarity or to ease his embarrassment but he isn’t biting. And it’s starting to irk me a bit because I feel like I have to choose between spending time together or having sex, when both could very clearly be an option. I know sex isn’t everything but I’m a mid 20s male and a former slut at the end of the day & it just feels like a hit our sex life doesn’t have to take. Going without it during the week is bad enough, idk about this.
So I’m just wondering if y’all have any suggestions to ease his embarrassment or if any of y’all have been in a similar situation & how you handled it? Bottoms, at what point (if at all) did you become comfortable enough to clean out with your boy toy chilling in the other room? Am I a selfish prick for not wanting to go that long without sex? Thank you so much in advance to anyone who read/replies this!