FLIRTING ADVICE: 3 Easy Ways To Talk To A Hot Guy At A Bar or Party! | Shallon Lester

Need some flirting advice? Wanna know how to talk to a guy or how to start a conversation with a guy? Who doesn’t, when you see a hot guy at a bar or party (or classroom!) and you have NO idea how to start a conversation or break the ice. Well, I’ll tell you three easy ways to talk to that cute boy you spotted at your school, office, or out on the town!

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  1. ALL OF THIS IS GOOD ADVICE EXCEPT THE COCONUT OIL THING, IT IS GOOD LUBE BUT IT WILL CAUSE CONDOMS TO BREAK!!! If you have an IUD/are on the pill/have the implant or anything else to prevent pregnancy go for it, but if condoms are your only contraception don't use coconut oil with them!!

  2. coconut oil is not safe to use with condoms and can cause bacterial infection bc it disrupts your natural PH. just bc something is natural does not make it safe for unintended purposes.

    no unwanted pregnancies shalloners!!!!!

  3. i have recently found out i'm on the spectrum ("high functioning") and your videos have been invaluable to me to understand the world and its nuances which doesn't come naturally to me and allows me to flourish, even above my neurotypical friends so thank you so much ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I'm 67 & love you girl!!!! Where were you 50 years ago? I probably be with my dream boy instead of trying to find one now! Haven't given up that there is still someone out there for me. You da best dudette.

  5. haha but guys if you are gonna compliment what the girl is wearing keep it simple like I like your dress. nothing like I like your shoes or oh your bag is nice lol I'd honestly think the guy is gay otherwise

  6. Shallon! Youโ€™ve mentioned in your podcast and here on YouTube that youโ€™ve dated successful guys (millionaires, โ€œfamous peopleโ€, etc). Where do you find them? How did you meet? How did you get them?

  7. I almost don't think of myself as a girl, I think of myself as a alpha male. I felt that.

    I've always been independent, I got it type of girl. I use to think when I was younger, I should have been a male because of my headstrong work ethic and independence. But I love me, my boobs, vagina, and all. ๐Ÿ’‹

  8. Please do a video on how to turn guys down in a nice, safe way. I don't want to turn away an insecure guy that will possibly harm me later on because of it. Also, please elaborate on how to be safe in general when dating and meeting new guys.

  9. I love Shallon but her sex advice at the end is really off. Coconut oil is antibacterial, so yes it kills the bad bacteria, but it also kills the good bacteria in our vagina, so it puts you right at risk for getting UTIโ€™s and all the rest. And never EVER buy the processed cheap crap!! I mean for gods sake, if youโ€™re gonna use coconut oil, get the good stuff. But honestly, just get a water-based lube. I use the one from Necessaire and I have less UTIโ€™s since switching from coconut oil as lube.

  10. this advice works for shallon becuase she is pretty. if you dont believe you are pretty or are insecure in yourself for whatever reason, you will just come off desperate or annoying.

  11. NOOOOO nonononoooo it has to be "their idea," we have to low-key give them opportunities to talk to us and MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. A classic example is of a woman "accidentally" dropping her glove/scarf/pencil/phone in front of a guy… This triggering him to pick up the glove and return it to the lady. When he returns it THEN introduce yourself. It is POOR MANNERS for a man to extend his hand first so do always offer yours, "ohhhh… Thank YOU…hi, I'm Myrrh…" ๐Ÿคœ If he didn't pick up the glove he's a pig anyway ๐Ÿ‘ still need that app????

  12. "I don't chase… but I don't consider starting a conversation chasing"

    THANK YOU ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ I need to get this into my head ugh

  13. Shallon, please do you have any tips on what to do when u going for a "dick appointment" to your boyfriends house? how to stay fresh etc when you have plenty of stuff to do before the event… love you <3

  14. Iโ€™m intrigued by you because when I see you I literally see future me when it comes to my personality. Iโ€™m definitely tuning into your advice because I already know that youโ€™re saving me a shit ton of time. I started to focus on my goals now and I see the toxic behavior I was exhibiting towards guys. And I totally relate with you about the alpha male feeling. Iโ€™m super aggressive and I like being on top and I like catching them off guard in that way because Iโ€™m a 5 feet sweet looking girl lol

  15. I was nodding my head like crazy the first few minutes into this video- the point you make about passive reciprocation is spot on for me and my previous relationships. I feel like I've learned so much since I started watching you!!

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