Fans educate Kehlani on LGBTQ terms and it becomes a great learning experience

Fans educate Kehlani on LGBTQ terms and it becomes a great learning experience
Fans educate Kehlani on LGBTQ terms and it becomes a great learning experience

The singer was gracious with fans | Photo: YouTube/Calvin Harris

The singer Kehlani has been out for years, but recently on Twitter, she experienced a moment of learning. It’s something that’s good for everyone to remember — even those who have been part of the community for years.

She recently wowed fans with her performance — and surprise kiss — with Demi Lovato, but it didn’t stop them from reminding her what LGBTQ terms really mean.

On 22 April, she tweeted: ‘cuz i keep geddin asked.. i’m queer. not bi, not straight. i’m attracted to women, men, REALLY attracted to queer men, non binary people, intersex people, trans people. lil poly pansexual papi hello good morning. does that answer your questions?’

She since deleted the tweet but the words comes courtesy of The Fader.

Conflating queer and bi

Fans particularly took issue with Kehlani saying she wasn’t bisexual, yet describing a definition of bisexuality that many people use.

There is nothing wrong with identifying as queer, and it’s a term many people are increasingly becoming more comfortable with, especially younger members of the community.

However, people who responded to her specifically spoke out about bi erasure.

One user, @Linawilso, explained: ‘u can identify however u want ofc but when you say things like “not bi” then describe exactly the attraction a bi person feels it can make people who don’t really kno wht bi means think that nb and intersex people arent included in tht attraction.’

A common misconception about bisexuality is that is strictly means attraction to two genders and two alone. In reality, bi simply means two or more.

The same user also pointed out that singling out trans and intersex people has bad implications.

They said: ‘also the addition of attraction to trans people sugggests that they’re in a separate category than their gender (same problem w intersex ppl) and that…. leaves a bad taste even tho i know that was not your point i think the wording in this comes off poorly.’

Rather than taking offense, Kehlani welcomed the discussion.

She also explained why she deleted her original tweet. Then she added she always wants to be corrected and learn more.

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