Coming Out To Christian Friends & Their Reactions [Gay Story Animation, Coming Out, Gay Asian]

I came out to my church friends, and did not expect these reactions! Growing up in a Christian community made it especially hard on my mental health to cope with coming to terms with my homosexuality, let alone get to a point where I finally am coming out to Christian friends, but in this gay story animation, I’m finally sharing my story as a gay Asian American on what it’s like to come out to church friends.

Voiced by Alex Zandevor
Animated by Vidrienna

9 COMMENTS

  1. Have you ever come out to Christian friends before? I grew up in a church setting, so it was especially stressful anticipating how my church friends would react. But at the end of the day, I'm glad I did it. True friends will stick with you no matter your orientation. πŸ™‚

  2. Yeah! I came out to my best friend in high school. He is straight but then he wanted to fool around, which was confusing to say the least. We're not active friends anymore but I think it made me be extra careful who I told after that. I told my Bible teacher and he was supportive in helping me think through my thoughts as a teenager. I value his patience and careful wording and also realizing where I was in the process of understanding myself and didn't freak out or try to lead the discussions. I didn't tell anyone again until in college, and then it was a female friend who liked me. I felt I "owed" it to her so we could keep the friendship, and although she was supportive of me, it also made our friendship complicated because I don't think she got over me until years later. I like your videos, please keep making them!

  3. As a gay christian myself (came here from r/gaychristians, ahah) this is a very real problem and it does hurt. my parents aren't religious but support me in my beliefs to be a christian, and I've been going to church for about three years now. my parents know that I'm gay and they're fine with it, however I have been refraining from coming out to any of my friends from church out of a fear of something like this happening to me. great video dude, stay strong and stay hopeful!

  4. Hello Aaren, it’s nice to see this progression unfold for you. Personally when I came out at 15 (almost 13 years ago) I was involved at a church singing in choir, playing handbells, having just been confirmed, etc. While I was active, I did it for social reasons and never actually believed in the faith, it’s just not in my makeup to have faith. When I came out, I promptly stopped having anything to do with the church because they were antigay as an institution and frankly, while it did suck, especially at that age, it wasn’t as though I was losing a belief I had held. Since being gay is just a part of my identity, any religious person I’m friends with is going to be socially liberal, partially because the more gay people conservative Christians meet, the less likely they are to be bigoted towards the LGBTQIA+ community. It really hurts me to see religion bring up so much strife in such promising lives, I just don’t and can’t understand it. Anyways, I hope you continue to come out and find that you can make meaningful relationships with people who accept and love all of you, there’s too many people out there who will do that, you don’t deserve to settle for less. Take care! πŸ’œ

  5. Hey Aaren, just wanted to say great video. And well done for having the courage to come out, it must have been pretty scary. It sucks that not all your friends can be like the first two, but I’m guessing it feels good to have finally come out no matter the outcome

  6. Great video! I find it so sad that some people, knowing full well that homosexuality is essentially random and not a choice, still choose to be so close minded. I'm glad you're still friends, but it must really sting not being able to talk to him about your dates, relationships and such.

  7. Glad to see you are alright Aaren and to replay your ansewr i did well was more like family my mom and brother but it was not bad but in deep i think my mom just ignore the fact is just hard to explain as for others is something not possible that fear of losing someone close just terrifed me… is just complicated but don.t want to finish this in a sad way what i want to say is that don.t be sad things like this happen but the ones who truly care about you will always be at your side and you still young you will meet new friends form bonds and be happy and by my point of view you seem to be a very social guy so it will be easy for you 😁 but really don.t be sad is just not worth it was matters is that youvare happy with yourself. PS. Sorry for some wrong words english is not my mother tougue πŸ˜…πŸ€£πŸ˜

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