1. I’ve only ever done group sex with people who were not my partners. I have a married friend that I would visit. We’d go to the beach and pick up guys to bring back to his place and we (he and his husband and any guys we brought back) would all play together. It was a lot of fun.

    Even if you’re not doing it with partners you can run into problems. I’m not going to go into pros and cons of should versus shouldn’t because that isn’t what you asked, but I will say that if you DO decide to do it, the best thing you can do is make sure everyone feels like they are getting enough attention. The fastest way to have a situation like this go sideways is for someone to feel left out. (Especially your partner.) The most important thing is to communicate what you want and how you are feeling and be receptive of the feelings and needs of everyone else involved.

  2. For me (and I’m not sure if I’m common in this regard, or totally unique)…. I find it easy to have friends who are fuck-buddies. No problem. I can even be friends with my fuck-buddies. No problem. Where I struggle, is turning a friend into a fuck-buddy. For me, I just can’t. If someone starts out as a someone I fuck, I can easily be friends with that person. If that person starts out as just a friend, I can’t seem to get into them sexually. I can’t think of a single friend of mine, I would consider fucking. At some point, I think, they become like a brother to me, and I just can’t.

    For that reason, my partner and I have occasionally (rarely) fucked around with other guys, and once or twice with another couple. They’ve all been fun and I have no regrets. But for the reasons above, I’ve never been able to cross that bridge with people who are currently friends with me.

  3. My husband and I did it with another couple a few times. We both like watching each other with other guys so it was sort of best of both worlds. We did it over a long weekend where they were staying at our apartment. We affectionately refer to it as the “husband swap weekend” so we had an awesome time. PM me if you want more details 🙂

  4. We did it with a couple we’d known and flirted with for years. It was fun and I’m glad we did it. I’d wanted to use the Bottom’s hole for a long time. So he and I had fun. It was not the best experience for my boy. The other top couldn’t get hard so they mostly just watched us fuck. Then the other bottom gave my boy really bad hickies. We agreed we’re gonna do it again, just not with that couple.

  5. It can be a lot of fun or it can be a nightmare. It all depends on going in with the right attitude, and having the discussion – laying down the rules – __before__ rubbing your naughty bits together.

    Agree on what is and isn’t allowed, on who gets to do what to whom, and so on. Pledge that no means no. Agree that anyone at any time can leave without consequence, and most especially without people trying to guilt them into something. And this is __very__ important: everyone must understand that it’s just for kicks, that there are no follow on obligations or expectations. It’s supposed to be a friendly fuckfest so do it as friendly as you can.

    Have fun!

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